Releasing Anger and Moving Forward Positively

Over the last three days I have experienced a family trauma that I would never thought would happen in my family. This is the kind of thing that is normally reserved for TV shows like Jerry Springer or Ricky Lake. I was accused of doing something so despicable I cannot even write it here because it’s bad enough having it in my head but it would be worse to see those words in print.

I am a believer in and a student of the law of attraction, therefore it is necessary for me to analyze this situation to some degree in order to discover a few important things such as…

• What thoughts or actions attracted this awful situation
• How can I release the dreadful anger I feel towards my accuser
• How can I move forward positively

So let’s start with the first task…how did I attract this situation?

I have a theory!

The relationship between me and a close relation of mine has always been difficult and of late it has gotten worse. I began to feel a lot of anger towards this person for past hurts and I felt I deserved an apology or at least an explanation for the contempt that this person has always treated me with.

Well, a couple of days ago I got my answer. I wanted to know what I had done to this person and now I know what it is that they think I have done. As disgusting as it is and as painful as it was and still is to bear, I now know.

The law of attraction is interesting in that we must literally be careful what we ask for. I wanted information and I got it, but the information that I got has torn my family apart probably beyond repair. And I have to take responsibility for attracting that.

I won’t lie, it’s hard to take.

But I do not believe in living in the past so the next thing to discover is…

How can I release the dreadful anger I feel towards my accuser?

This one is a little more challenging. Thankfully since I began my journey of self discovery I have learnt how to channel some of my emotions. I do not profess to be perfect or to do the things I know I should do all of the time but I am aware of my actions and thoughts, positive or negative.

One of the ways of releasing hurt and anger that works for me is writing, hence this post. When I write what I feel it’s as though I can leave that pain on the page where it is written and I no longer have to carry it around with me. So with this post today I can put down at least 30% of my anger.

The next thing to do is to talk to a stranger; we actually let me rephrase that. Not an actual stranger but someone who is not emotionally involved in the situation. Again I am blessed with a couple of friends with whom I can discuss this and not have to worry about the whole world knowing about it.

I need to be able to speak these despicable words to someone other than my family members. I do not need to be empathized or sympathized with I just need to be heard.

The last thing I will do is go to the beach and have a conversation with God. I need to speak out my pain out loud, I need to hear the words out loud, and I need to release them to someone who can absorb them without being hurt in any way.

I need to shout, I need to curse, I need to cry and then I can begin to let go and let God.

Last and by no means least I need decide one more thing and that is…

How can I move forward positively?

My heart tells me to focus on the things and the people that I love. I am indulging in two of my favorite things right now. I am writing and I am listening to music, right now its “Family Reunion” by Jill Scott.

Aside from writing and listening to music some of my other favorite things are…
• Going to the beach
• Going to a natural spring
• Watching movies
• Hanging out with my nieces, sister and brother in law
• Hanging out with my Godsons
• Hanging out with friends
• Eating good food at good restaurants (I’m a chef)
• Helping folks online learn and use the law of attraction
• Watching tennis

These are the things I will focus on over the coming weeks as well as using positive affirmations and EFT to help me keep clearing any negative emotions that may come up. It is a trying time to say the least, but the one thing I can say for sure is that I will be OK.

I always am!

Peace and Love
Carol